New Therapist wants us to have meetings. Actually, so did the other therapist. Maybe it’s DID chic or something.
We’re waffling about how to put this on the site–i.e., personal categories or what? But for now–
Griselda, who is eternally hyper about this blog, has offered to chair the meeting. (*sigh*)
Griselda: I don’t know why he is sighing. Hello, it’s me! Griselda! OK, I will try not to use too many exclamation marks. I just thought of the play thing where you know who’s saying what.
I dont know why everybody is so low energy–it’s sort of my bailiwick, the body, and I t least am tough enough to just man up and deal with being groggy. We have a Seroquel hangover, becasue we are running out of the 25 mg–which for God’s sake is a call-in, people–I’m sorry I wasn’t paying good attention last night. >:-(
Anyway. We’ve been mumbling about how ti stru ture these things, so I have decided to be like AA. OK, run it like AA. Although it would be comically amusing if I were like AA.
(Nobody appreciates my sense of humor. No-body–get it?) :o)
I am going to go around the room alphabetically, just like the list. Sometimes we sort of forget who’s on board. There are nine of us, after all. Sean wants that –OK, he’s mostly over that–wanted that to be a sign of our being fake, but I think it’s more a matter of who’s really paying attention at the time.
Anyway–I want to say, before we forget, that we are having some trouble about being cool in public. We are starting to let the “we” thing slip out. Although Harriet says that maybe it’s just that we’re noticing it now; and now we are coming up with a (possibly fake) memory of somebody having called attention to it in the past, and our laughing it off like a Queenie thing. OK, yes, I know, wrong queen.
So OK, this is me shutting up.
Connie: I have this feeling of a sort of gray blankness. I guess that means that I am still depressed. I don’t want to be here; I’m just not sure where “here” is. I’m not suicidal; just low energy.
We’re all reacting to the upcoming move, and I think we should talk about that. I want to say “I’ll pass”–OK, with that I’ll pass.
Eight: I just went over and deleted a wrong category–for some reason, and I think it’s interesting–they (well, we) had me down twice–the other one was “Ghost.” I am not feeling quite as ghostlike, so . . .
I do notice, as Griselda has, that my subjective experience is different when I’m “out” (doesn’t that have a resonance of out-of-the-closet?) than when I’m sort of sharing non-vocal time. Anyway, I think Connie is right about the move.
I am feeling a good bit of that good old free-floating anxiety we used to dump on poor Sean. I believe I recall him saying at a therapy session that he actually feels better these days; and that we are indeed helping him share the weight.
The problem with the anxiety is that . . . oh God, I don’t want this to fall through! I noticed that the leasing people barely scanned the paperwork. I can’t see any non-jump-throughable hoops; I share the determined optimism that it will, it must work out. But I am very afraid; especially for her daughter’s sake. I want this for her. We all do. (And guys? Let’s not forget to schedule a move date on Monday, OK?) They’re telling me to make a stickie . . . OK, there.) That’s it for me.
Griselda: I am very excited about the move!! I wish people would at least determine to ignore such negativity. Yes, I’m scared–I think we all are! But we should dwell on the positive. I can feel that fear welling up inside. But I am determined to work it through. We’ve been getting a lot of headache/migraines lately, and the doofuses don’t seem to realize why. Duh! It’s stress! Anyway, I suppose I should say that perhaps obviously my main concern in terms of my “department” is that we not fuck up the back again, OK people? Please?
Harriet: I notice that I am less physically tense than other people. (Another nod of confirmation/approval from Griselda.) I suppose it’s discipline. Althoug I do worry; I think I worry more about the team. That’s my job; I poked for the meeting. I think having them online here is an excellent idea.
I think the move is also an excellent idea. I share the “I can’t see any non-jump-throughable hoops” that Eight does. (Pause while I critique the current theme as difficult to read. We’ll work on that later.) I actually have confidence. I think the anxiety is normal and understandable, and I know we’ll get through it. Those people ate us up with a spoon, and I’m sure they’ll be willing to work with us. Ironically, I think this is actually an excuse to stall on packing; I think that packing is very triggering. As we said to the daughter–gosh, that kid needs a name! I’m going to give her one. Hmm . . . I’m skipping over her baby name . . . OK, there’s been some discussion about whether or not to leave her as just “Daughter.” But I feel very strongly that she needs a name; that she not just dwindle into a sort of placeholder/object.
Hope. I’m going with Hope. General consensus there. Did we mention that Nine changed her name? As in completely? We’re fascinated with names; the Narrator (no, I’m not capping the “the.” Get over it.) thakes them quite seriously. Hope it is. Anyway, as we said to Hope, this is our first move since we bought the house (pre-divorce) where we haven’t essentially been fleeing like Eliza over the ice. (Ooh. I get to make a link reference. God, but Griselda loves those. Her enthusiasm is so refreshing. She makes me smile. She is part of our Hope too. She happily pointed out that after all, Hope was housed in her/our/the body to begin with.)
What I meant from the above is that we have time to pack; to plan. I think that’s part of the general agony of the uncertainty. There’s no reason in the world why we shouldn’t pack, no matter what. It’s not as if we’re staying here. But still, the stalling. I think that bears looking into, yself; and I shall advocate for bringing it up with Therapist. (Come on, guys, she’s not “New” Therapist anymore.) Next!
Jill: I like the furniture. Everybody is helping me write this. I can read, but I think thsi is the first time I have typed. What I mean about the furniture is that I like the way the cat looks on it. It reminds me our grandmother’s house. I loved her so much. That is why Nine changed her last name to hers. I miss her all the time. Next to the old Therapist, she is the only good mommy I have ever had.
Wow, that backing up thing is fun. Making the letters disappear. I’ve watched, but I have never done it. Anyway, I want the move. It will be quiet. That’s what I like about the cat. She is surled up against the pillow, sleeping. She is a dark warm gray cat. They call her blue; I’m not sure why. Anyway, the couch is black, and she looks like a picture. I want to be all peaceful like at that house. I am going to ask them for lace curtains. It’s the kind of Irish we are. Our mother said that, but I’m not sure if grandmother cared. Maybe. In any case, I remember the curtains, and how they smelled. Kind of dusty, but I would wrap myself up in them and feel safe. It was like the quiet of snow.
Klaus: I think it’s high time the grandmother turned up in this story. She’s the only reason we survived at all. I think she knew that something was amiss. I know she didn’t much like our mother; that she would say that our father was the only person in the house with whom she had a good relationship. I rememember Jill being hurt by that, but I know what she meant. The baby isn’t exactly a person, in some ways; not an adult person with whom one can interact.
In any case, I see the move as a challenge, and as usual, I will fight for us. Fight for the sanity. We have a person in the Game now who is everything positive; I am trying to be that person for us. I myself have become conscious about my brooding. I think we’re getting better. Samurai?
Sam: God, but I hate this shit. OK–here’s what I think. I agree with everybody. I feel the fear; I feel the hope; I feel the almost nauseous concern for Hope’s possible disappointment–and I feel the confidence that it really will be all right. I agree that that’s the big thing: What if . . . it really does turn out to be all right? Part of all this is Sean’s determined reaching out for something to stress over, to go wrong. And yeah, we’re all right behind him.
I’m going to take a break to take our ADD med, and then it will be his turn. (And, oh yeah, I’ll be part of picking the new theme. Count on that.)
Sean: I am actually in a pretty good mood this morning. Go figure. I feel rested (despite the Seroquel groggy) and centered. It’s really good to parcel out the anxiety for a change. I’m obviously getting better at that.
My concerns this morning are mundane: making more tea; cleaning our glasses; picking up the refrigerator magnets (see, we have a lot of those poetry magnets–which, interestingly, never got put up here.)
I think that the above shows that deep down inside, we have always hated this place; seen it as the stopgap it’s been. I’ve been telling myself/us that it’s like being posted somewhere in the Army–sooner or later, our term of duty will be up, and we’ll get re-posted—or, in our case, sent home. And even if it falls through–we’re *still* not stuck in Iraq.
Anyway–God, we all need to stop saying that. It’s like it’s embedded into our language center–which the Narrator agrees–today I want to stay focused on the things which are, instead of the things that are not. Catchy, huh? I really liked AA. Over to you, boychik–
The Narrator: (Boychik?) Well, he’s perky today. I’m at the tough part of the book, but at least the killer is talking to me. (I’ve decided to redact the posts with the excerpts, or figure out how to password them for the Therapist, or something.) How humiliating if we get famous, and then somebody Googles it. Shudder.
(You know, I’m going to have to go through and comb for the above-mentioned “A-word.” )
In many ways, I’ll miss this place and the neighborhood. So much to listen to, to observe, and to feel. Another chapter in the long, strange trip.
I would like to point out that “The” Narrator is part of my name/label. Just saying.
Dear God in heaven, but those ferrets reek. Hm, I wonder if my sense of smell is more acute; perhaps I’m tied into the senses more. Maybe that’s why I seem to be on such good terms with Griselda. Who, by the way, has been an excellent moderator. A good choice.
So—I think we’ll get on with our day now. Let Sean do the tea and glasses thing–and the ferrets; and then settle down a bit. (And I believe I have a consensus that post-ferrets, we will come back and pick a new theme.)
And that’s a wrap, people! I was going to say, “Serenity Prayer?” as a sort of joke–but it’s not:
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference.
Big hug, people!!